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Stuttering Shell: What would you do?

Saturday, August 22, 2009

What would you do?

If someone has made it perfectly clear that they do not care for you & that they do not wish to even acknowledge your existence, YET they still want your children to come over and play with their child...what would you do?

Not to get into *cough*family*cough* drama, but this is an ex-family member I am speaking of.

The hubs says that I'm being mean...that I should let the kids play because the kids are just innocent victims in this unfortunate situation. While I agree to some extent, I remain firm about my decision and I stand my ground. There have been a few times when I RELUCTANTLY let them go, but I absolutely cannot stand them being over there.

I don't think I am wrong. I don't think I am being mean. I don't think I am robbing my children of any precious moments. I believe that I am proving a point. I believe that I am "sticking to my guns."

As stubborn as I may sound right now {and petty, too} I truly feel that it's NOT in my children's best interest to be around someone who has made it blatantly clear that my husband & I no longer exist. Our family is one take us or you leave us. You can't have the kids without the parents. What you see is what you get and if you don't like it, well, tough.

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Blogger Melissa G. said...

I'd have to agree with you 100%. There's no reason for your kids to be some where if it makes you feel uncomfortable. You are their parent and there to protect them even when other people may not understand. Stay strong.

Aug 23, 2009, 3:36:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

There's no right or wrong answer here. He's right, you're right-they are WRONG.

What do your kids think?

Aug 23, 2009, 4:53:00 PM  
Blogger Brittany Ann said...

I agree with you. It's not good for your kids to see someone ignoring you. They definitely don't need those adults as the role models, in any way, in their lives!

Aug 23, 2009, 5:08:00 PM  
Blogger Melanie said...

We have a similar situation with my youngest's GODMOTHER. She used to email me and visit ALL the time, and suddenly she vanished and started to ignore me completely. Deleted me off Myspace and such for no reason. She has not spoken directly to me in a year. Sad, because my oldest adores her daughter. Maybe I should 'play nice' for the sake of the kids, but I really don't want to. So yeah, sorry to rant but I agree with you!!

Aug 23, 2009, 6:34:00 PM  
Blogger Karen said...

Life is to short.... move on. It's amazing how someone can say you don't exist anymore. You can pick your Friends but you can't pick your Family. Just because they are Family doesn't mean you have to put up with them. It's easy to hurt the ones you love.

Aug 24, 2009, 12:44:00 AM  
Blogger Kerree said...

Life is too short to be uncomfortable. I've cut my own mother out of my life because she was just too stressful for me to handle and the relief was amazing. And no, I'm not the bitch, she is. There are only a limited amount of hours in the day and you should be spending them in the pursuit of happiness not doing something you hate. Don't let your anyone make you feel bad. Do what you think is right. Besides, if they wanted your children over there so much surely they can make an effort to get along with you.

Aug 29, 2009, 6:57:00 AM  

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